Sometimes I just don't understand people. Not that I'm meant to understand everyone but I really do not understand those people who say one thing yet are thinking another. Life is too short to play games with people they don't like.
Why, for example, if you don't want to be a part of something, do you avoid communicating that? Why can't you just say "I'm not interested in doing that" instead of not responding to emails and other communications? The person that requested it in the first place cannot read your mind. You should just say it and stop wasting yours and the other person's time.
Why do you agree that it would be good to go for coffee with someone you don't like when you meet them on the street and they suggest it? Why would you not just say that you're not interested up front and wasting more time?
I just cannot believe that people are so afraid of saying what they really think. I think it's worse to be considered a "fake" than to be considered honest. Life is too short to play that kind of game. Especially for the person that is afraid to say what they really think.
I've been thinking about the behaviour of women a lot lately. Being the strong-minded individual that I am, and never having bought into the whole "girls should be cute" idea, it's hard for me to understand why women can be so manipulative and dishonest. It's just such a waste of time in the big picture of things. After all, if someone gets into a relationship with the person that you appear to be, they will be totally unprepared for the "real" you and it will all be based on a lie. I don't know about you but I really have no time for lies.
While there are men that do the things I've mentioned above, it seems to me that men are equally as unaware that many of those "cute" girls are actually intelligent and manipulative. I believe that those men who go for the "helpless" types of girls are looking for something that doesn't exist because women are actually way stronger than they like to appear to be. Women are not cute and stupid. Women are just very adept at manipulation. We can all do it yet there are some of us that refuse to...
Anyway, for any of you young drama queens out there who prefer to take the "dishonest" route instead of saving yourself time, give your head a shake. Wouldn't you rather just get on with life instead of skirting around the subject? I would.